Decision Overload: when you have a big decision, or maybe lots of small ones that you can’t seem to resolve. You find yourself second-guessing every idea and course change, and end up frozen in front of a glass wall blocking your progress.
Why a glass wall? Because it tortures you with a clear vision of the way ahead without letting you move ahead.
How about we share stories of personal decision overload, OK? I’ll go first.
As I mentioned in a previous post, I removed my eBooks from Amazon due to zero sales. My intention was to identify what was wrong with them and correct it. Problem is, I don’t really know what is wrong. It could be a problem with the cover, or the topic, or even the genre. Worse case, it could be all of those things or none of them. I don’t know.
So, while I struggle with a new direction for my books I get a wild hair up my ass and decide it is time to update my blog. Not just any update, but a totally new domain name, image, and content update. After all, the activity on the blog could use lots of reviving.
Now, I am busier than a one-legged man in an ass-kicking contest. Thing is, I am busy getting nowhere. The more I try to get clear about who I am, what I have to say, and how to best say it the more I doubt myself and my abilities.
Then, along comes the biggest curse of all…to much self-reliance.
I lived most of my life believing that self-reliance was a great way to be. If you don’t need anyone, you don’t get disappointed. The problem with that belief is it is nearly impossible to make it alone in most activities. Sure, you can try, and even make a passable effort towards your goals. But, without outside help, your vision is limited and often out of focus.
After all, it’s hard to reach people when you only know yourself.
Ironic, isn’t it? We avoid working through the decisions staring us in the face by creating new decisions. Sure, for a short time it feels like progress. Then, all too soon we face the reality that all we’ve done is create new distractions.
Like a leaf caught in a dust-devil, we spin around in circles, getting nowhere except dizzy with confusion.
- Don’t wait to ask for help.
- Don’t try to do it alone.
- Get real clear about what you want to say, how you want to say it, and who you hope to reach.
Now, I need to take my own advice and find some help and moral support.